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Enabling occurs when the addict/alcoholic is shielded from the consequences needed to recover.

It is usually unintentional. Do not shield him or her from the consequences as this is what motivates him or her to recover. The pain and loss are the answer and can lead to recovery.

 

Dr. Pete Butkins (407) 786-1913

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Total abstinence gives the addict/alcoholic a chance to recover from the damage.

 

Do not shield him from the consequences as this is what motivates him to recover. The pain and loss are the answer and can lead to recovery.

 

Dr. Pete Butkins (407) 786-1913

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Effective recovery from addiction involves abstinence from all mood-altering chemicals plus character building.

Effective recovery from addiction involves abstinence from all mood-altering chemicals plus character building. Total abstinence gives the addict/alcoholic a chance to recover from the mental, emotional, spiritual and physical damge he has done by giving up the devious ways and then paying back for the harm he or she has done. This usually takes many months and should be done in the mainstream of life.

Addicts/alcoholics must want to get sober and clean because of their severe pain and loss. Then there is much work to do. Ideally, this is done with and by those who have 'been there' in the Twelve Step programs. It is beneficial to be mentored by a good therapist as the addict/alcoholic goes through the first year or two. A personal trusting relationship with a good therapist who has been there and a good outpatient group can save the person from the old self.

 

Dr. Pete Butkins                                                                           

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I have seen families, once destroyed by addiction, become reunited with love and forgiveness once the change becomes long lasting.

They are perhaps better off than if the harm had never been done. The rebirth gives meaning to the rejections of the past. The awful past becomes their greatest asset.

Do not give up hope nor be afraid to come back and make amends for harm done. You have nothing to lose but pride. Losing pride is freeing.

                                                                                      

Peace and Love,

 

Doc Pete

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There is nothing better than a reunited family. Bonds become a blessing for all.

I have seen families, once destroyed by addiction, become reunited with love and forgiveness once the change becomes trusted. They are perhaps better off than if the harm had never been done. The rebirth gives meaning to the rejections of the past. The awful past becomes their greatest asset.

Do not give up hope nor be afraid to come back and make amends for harm done. You have nothing to lose but pride. Losing pride is freeing.

Peace and Love,

Doc Pete

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Continual forgiveness, changes in behavior of all family members and trust building are the keys to family recovery.

All family members must give up the desire for dominance over anyone. Family unity is achieved through negotiation.

Dr. Pete

 

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Families in recovery from addiction do well after a period of healing and spiritual, emotional growth.

Continual forgiveness, changes in behavior and trust building are the keys to family recovery. This is best accomplished after participation in twelve step programs.

Dr. Pete Butkins

 

 

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Addiction recovery is a joy; so much better than intoxication and failure.

Most of us get sober and clean and wonder if we can ever experience happiness again. Once we are sober long enough and have heard dozens of peers say that this is a great way of life, we begin to see it also. Then we feel t!

Addiction recovery is wonderful; so much better than intoxication and failure. Getting sober and clean is a much happier and easier life, leading to real purpose and success.

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

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Normal drinkers/pot users get sense of ease and comfort. Addicts/alcoholics get tragedy.

One in about ten is an addict anywhere you go. We cannot drink or or use drugs safely. End of story.

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

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Right living means making up for harm done to others and being helpful to them.

To stay sober and clean, we must be useful to God and others. Enhancement of our spiritual lives is necessary.

Doc Pete

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Year One of Addiction Recovery Entails Dedication!!!

Getting a new girlfriend, being on mood-altering medication, being a workaholic or being otherwise distracted from your recovery dooms the addict.

Dr. Pete Butkins

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Effective Substance Treatment.

Treatment should skillfully deflate egos and be done by those who have 'been there.'

When you own your own sickness, you can impact others addicts who will then trust the direction.

Doc Pete

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Effective Treatment for DrugAlcohol Addiction.

     Good treatment is best administered by thoes who have 'been there' and know the traps Even more, these people know how to solve the problems that arise the first year or two without medication or other forms of blocking feelings and reality.

     Addicts need to cope with feelings and not regress to anesthetizing them. Anger, fear, remorse and old hurts surface and must be resolved. Those who are sober and clean for years have done this and teach it.

     We need to address this. The addictions field is being monopolized by corporations with little knowledge of effective treatment. AND, it is killing us!!!

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

 

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Johnny Manziel Gives Donald Trump Advice - Recovery Lesson # 1.

Lesson # 1 in recovery is to be a humble student and not the teacher.  Teachers do not get sober. Students can if they listen and learn how to get sober and clean. Overconfidence, resentment(s) and prescription pill abuse create relapses. Overconfidence is the worst as it is difficult to see and we confuse it with confidence/empowerment. Bigshots get drunk. Students get sober and clean.

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

 

Johnny Manziel offers Donald Trump advice before deleting Twitter account.

 

Shalise Manza Young,Shutdown Corner 9 hours ago

Former Cleveland Browns quarterback Johnny Manziel was back on Twitter on Monday, offering advice to President Donald Trump before abruptly deleting his own account.

“Yo, POTUS,” his first tweet to the president read.  “Even I know to stay away from the notifications section on twitter. [Expletive] will drive you crazy, lead the country and let them hate.”

“Control what you can control and let the rest fall by the wayside,” read the next.

Manziel then deleted his Twitter account which is why neither of the above tweets are embedded.

Trump has long been obsessed with public opinion of him, and in recent days there was a report that the stories of the size of the crowd assembled on the National Mall for his inauguration bothered him deeply.

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But Manziel, who has heard his share of public opinion and shaming over the last few years after several public missteps, wants to see Trump step away from his mentions. Manziel made a confessional of sorts on Twitter last week, saying he allowed himself to get “#LostInTheSauce” (aka he was drinking too much).

Thanks to his fellow Texas A&M Aggie Martellus Bennett, Manziel and a friend attended the AFC championship game on Sunday night. Manziel wore a Tom Brady jersey and winter hat with the vintage Pat Patriot logo, and basically live broadcast his experience through his Snapchat account.

This isn’t the first time the two men have found themselves in the same story regarding Twitter. Trump implied teams would regret not selecting Manziel as he fell toward the bottom half of the first round of the 2014 NFL draft.

Manziel has not played in the NFL since 2015.

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Recovery 101               P. A. Butkins 09--07-16 Just because you know how to stay sober doesn't mean that you will!

 

Knowing the step, stages and signs of recovery and the symptoms, signals and idiosyncrasies of relapse does not mean that you will stay sober and clean.

Knowing how to sponsor, where the best meetings are, who the best sponsor is, memorizing the step, knowing the traditions, legacies and warranties does not mean you are in recovery.  Attending AA or NA meetings does not mean you are in recovery, an active member.

You can go to meetings often and get worse.

You have to perform the tasks that sober and clean and happy people perform in order to become sober, happy and clean.

Self-knowledge is a way to keep controlling your disease and your world.  God is in charge; He is in control. Stop intellectualizing your disease and act.

Redo the steps, sponsor and do service work at your meeting or club.

Do any service work but do it!

until

you can sponsor. (Put your name on the sponsorship list)

Self-knowledge availed us____________!!!

 

Stay Sober and Prosper,

Doc Pete, the imperfect therapist

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Step 6 - Helping a loved one get sober.

                                                     

After having learned to set boundaries, formed a team to hold each other accountable and intervening, commit to your plan.  

Many families try this one last time and quit after the person relapses.  Before quitting, see if the person is now serious.  If not, keep the plan/boundary - let go and see what happens.  If your loved one comes back to you and does what your addictions counselor asks (attends AA or NA, prays, associates only with recovering people and embraces his 12-step program and embraces recovery) you can feel confident that he means business. If not, detach with love!!!

Always leave the door open with the condition that, if he is sober and clean and being VIGILANT about recovery, he can gain your support.  However, he must be performing the above daily tasks.

Don't give up; go for a win/win.

Best of luck. Al-anon provides support, expert knowledge, skills and abilities as well as reinforcement and validation of your decision to have a health family.

 

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

P.S. Buy Know Relief for the Family, Butkins (2012) at www.createspace.com for the whole story.

P.P.S. This is the last of the abbreviated model for helping a loved one get and stay sober and clean.  My intent is to provide you with soeem helpful guidelines that will save you times and money and energy and strife.  I hope this helps.

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Step 5- Helping a loved one get sober.

 

After having learned to set boundaries, form a team to hold each other accountable. You have decided to intervene and save your loved one's life.  Choose stable and concerned family and/or friends and agree on a plan to intervene.  You can have a brief or half hour discussion about your pain and your decision to stop putting up with the drug and/or alcohol behavior. Have a prepared script and state your position. Use each other to remain consistent with your plan to get "off the Merry-go-Round."

Best of luck. Al-anon provides support, expert knowledge, skills and abilities as well as reinforcement and validation of your decision to have a health family.

 

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

P.S. Buy Know Relief for the Family, Butkins (2012) at www.createspace.com for the whole story.

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Dana White set boundaries with Jon Jones - Now he can get help. It's a disease not willpower! Jon Jones has incredible willpower in all other areas!!!

Dana White Done With Jon Jones, Says He Should Clean House

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Dana White Done With Jon Jones, Says He Should Clean House

After years of dealing with numerous out-of-the-Octagon issues swirling around Jon Jones, UFC president Dana White has run out of road when it comes to giving one of the greatest fighters of all time more room to course correct his life.

Jones has crashed his car after drinking, fled from the scene of a hit-and-run accident that he caused, he’s been popped for violating his probation, and tested positive for cocaine in an out-of-competition drug test.

Although it wasn’t any sort of violation, Jones refused to accept a last-minute replacement for UFC 151, with the promotion eventually deciding to cancel the event altogether. That certainly didn't sit well with UFC brass.

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Earlier this week is what really set White off, however, as Jones was flagged for a potential anti-doping violation, forcing him out of the UFC 200 main event opposite Daniel Cormier.

The latest was just a step too far for White.

“How many chances can you give this guy? How many breaks can you cut this kid?” White asked Friday on The Herd on FS1.

“Listen, I don't know where Lorenzo (Fertitta) is on this specific issue, but I still haven't talked to Jon Jones. There’s nothing for me and Jon Jones to talk about. I haven't and I'm not gonna. There is nothing for us to talk about.”

At the end of the day, White agreed to likening Jones’ situation to that of former boxing champion Mike Tyson, whose career in boxing crumbled when he surrounded himself primarily with friends who didn’t exactly help steer his career in the right direction.

“I'm not the biggest Jon Jones fan right now, but I truly believe that he did take a supplement, that had the stuff in it, and it wasn't intentional. I truly believe that,” White continued. “But at the same time, come on. You're 28 years old. You’re probably the greatest talent to ever step foot in this sport. Call USADA and tell them what supplements you're taking.

“You've already been through this history of just absolute madness. Why would you do this — forget doing this to us — why would you do this to yourself?

“You're a grown-up, and the guys that are around him are just as bad. The guys that are supposed to be looking out for him and watching his back. Give me a break. Give me a break. Jon should have cleaned house a long time ago. That's what Jon should have done.”

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Parents - Don't settle for sometimes recovery from addiction.

Many times a teen will stop his or her extreme substance abuse yet still use.  They may try recovery but only do it to satisfy you or the judge or the school.

This does not work for an addict or alcoholic.

Team u with a good therapist who knows recovery, goes to meetings or knows twelve-step works and will coach you.

The key to addiction recovery os ongoing abstinence and recovery actions that the recovering people in AA or NA know because they do it.  Follow their directions and keep doing it When parents go to Al-anon, the chances of success go way up.

Dr. P. Butkins

Best of luck and God bless.

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