It costs some pride but is still inexpensive.
Recovery from addiction means surrender, not self improvement. Right living means making up for harm done to others and being helpful to them.
Recovery from addiction is very attainable . The experts have been there. Find them at 12 step meetings.
It will take a synthesis of these people working together with integrity. Greed and power have no place in treatment.
Trying to help them by yourself is like trying to rebuild your carbureter on your car. You will probably need help unless you are trained in mechanics.
Dr. Peter A. Butkins, LMT
Always ask the question, "Do you want help?" If you are talking to a loved one ask, "Does he want help?"
Dr. Peter A. Butkins, LMT
Many times, greed and fears overtake the providers. There are billions of dollars in addiction treatment. There is peace and purposefulness in doing it right.
Dr. Peter A. Butkins, LMT
Drug/alcohol treatment is simple. The family has the control if they learn to use it properly. Get a therapist who knows addictions, has been there and can help you become the therapist.
Dr. Pete Butkins
Call me at 407 786-1913
Use results from valid and reliable research that is rigorous, has integrity. Bias must be eliminated. Integrity.
Dr. Peter A. Butkins
Look for Substance Abuse Programs where no one can keep using drugs and stay. Program INTEGRITY means that abstinence is the goal and recovering people follow directions that lead to lifetime abstinence. This requires much work by the addict/alcoholic.
The selection process must also have integrity. People who will cooperate either because they have personal pain and loss or do not want to continue hurting their loved ones. I directed by a skillful therapist, this provides the "leverage" needed to motivate them into solid recovery.
I know how to make this happen.
Call me at (407) 786-1913 for more.
Dr. Peter A. Butkins
Good treatment is best administered by thoes who have 'been there' and know the traps Even more, these people know how to solve the problems that arise the first year or two without medication or other forms of blocking feelings and reality.
Addicts need to cope with feelings and not regress to anesthetizing them. Anger, fear, remorse and old hurts surface and must be resolved. Those who are sober and clean for years have done this and teach it.
We need to address this. The addictions field is being monopolized by corporations with little knowledge of effective treatment. AND, it is killing us!!!
Dr. Peter A. Butkins
Knowing the step, stages and signs of recovery and the symptoms, signals and idiosyncrasies of relapse does not mean that you will stay sober and clean.
Knowing how to sponsor, where the best meetings are, who the best sponsor is, memorizing the step, knowing the traditions, legacies and warranties does not mean you are in recovery. Attending AA or NA meetings does not mean you are in recovery, an active member.
You can go to meetings often and get worse.
You have to perform the tasks that sober and clean and happy people perform in order to become sober, happy and clean.
Self-knowledge is a way to keep controlling your disease and your world. God is in charge; He is in control. Stop intellectualizing your disease and act.
Redo the steps, sponsor and do service work at your meeting or club.
Do any service work but do it!
you can sponsor. (Put your name on the sponsorship list)
Self-knowledge availed us____________!!!
Stay Sober and Prosper,
Doc Pete, the imperfect therapist
My woman's program began one month ago. I am proud to announce that it has a great beginning, promising the tremendous success that the men's program has had over the years. I believe that by helping addicts and alcoholics to abstain from all mood-altering chemicals, find the support groups and perform the healing processes to help them reach a happy recovery, we can lead them to a recovery that replaces the darkness of addiction.
God and much work by the addict through God can create a healthy person who passes on this gift to others.
God bless and much success.
After having learned to set boundaries, form a team to hold each other accountable. You have decided to intervene and save your loved one's life. Choose stable and concerned family and/or friends and agree on a plan to intervene. You can have a brief or half hour discussion about your pain and your decision to stop putting up with the drug and/or alcohol behavior. Have a prepared script and state your position. Use each other to remain consistent with your plan to get "off the Merry-go-Round."
Best of luck. Al-anon provides support, expert knowledge, skills and abilities as well as reinforcement and validation of your decision to have a health family.
Dr. Peter A. Butkins
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After years of dealing with numerous out-of-the-Octagon issues swirling around Jon Jones, UFC president Dana White has run out of road when it comes to giving one of the greatest fighters of all time more room to course correct his life.
Jones has crashed his car after drinking, fled from the scene of a hit-and-run accident that he caused, he’s been popped for violating his probation, and tested positive for cocaine in an out-of-competition drug test.
Although it wasn’t any sort of violation, Jones refused to accept a last-minute replacement for UFC 151, with the promotion eventually deciding to cancel the event altogether. That certainly didn't sit well with UFC brass.
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Earlier this week is what really set White off, however, as Jones was flagged for a potential anti-doping violation, forcing him out of the UFC 200 main event opposite Daniel Cormier.
The latest was just a step too far for White.
“How many chances can you give this guy? How many breaks can you cut this kid?” White asked Friday on The Herd on FS1.
“Listen, I don't know where Lorenzo (Fertitta) is on this specific issue, but I still haven't talked to Jon Jones. There’s nothing for me and Jon Jones to talk about. I haven't and I'm not gonna. There is nothing for us to talk about.”
At the end of the day, White agreed to likening Jones’ situation to that of former boxing champion Mike Tyson, whose career in boxing crumbled when he surrounded himself primarily with friends who didn’t exactly help steer his career in the right direction.
“I'm not the biggest Jon Jones fan right now, but I truly believe that he did take a supplement, that had the stuff in it, and it wasn't intentional. I truly believe that,” White continued. “But at the same time, come on. You're 28 years old. You’re probably the greatest talent to ever step foot in this sport. Call USADA and tell them what supplements you're taking.
“You've already been through this history of just absolute madness. Why would you do this — forget doing this to us — why would you do this to yourself?
“You're a grown-up, and the guys that are around him are just as bad. The guys that are supposed to be looking out for him and watching his back. Give me a break. Give me a break. Jon should have cleaned house a long time ago. That's what Jon should have done.”
The field of addiction treatment is being inundated by doctors and corporate heads who have not treated addiction for very long, have no or minimal training and education in the field of addiction and are medicating the hell out of their clients who trust them.
Addiction is a primary disease and the goal is abstinence, even for late stage, chronic addicts and alcoholics. Medication is recommended for very brief detoxification and stabilization, but not for more than a few weeks at most. When you or your son or daughter or spouse gets a five minute diagnosis of psychosis, bi-polar disorder, borderline personality disorder, ADHD, PTSD or another co-occurring disorder, make sure there has been an intake with evaluation, a follow-up session for assessment using testing instruments that are valid and reliable and that the treatment provider has spent two to three hours with your loved one before they prescribe medication. Further, make sure that your provider is qualified to diagnose these problems, i.e., has training and experience working with these populations.
The addict/alcoholic has been ingesting drugs for a long time and should be somewhat depressed, having many psychological symptoms (sometimes addiction mimics over 200 other problems), many mental symptoms and many social and health issues that are usually stabilized when abstinent during the first year of recovery.
After 50 years of providing direct services to addicts and alcoholics, I am convinced that the best treatment is the twelve-step programs. Referring to these programs works yet does not make billions for drug companies or greedy and arrogant providers who are using harmful drugs to treat a drug problem. Enabling occurs at all levels of addiction, whether it involves the schools who deny a drug epidemic, the government who denies a drug problem, the field of sports that covers up and minimizes drug and alcohol offenses or the field of mental health that denies the fact that there are counselors who are untreated addicts and treat addicts. The overdoses have become pandemic and we talk about legalizing another drug. This is a primary contributing factor to the poor judgment, lack of inhibition and arrogance that prevails in our precious country. Do we really want a country of stoned citizens, one out of ten who will become addicted and a proclivity to influence many suggestible young adults?
If one in ten persons has a pre-disposition to addiction, there are addicts in every area of our lives. We're covering this up, about to legalize another mind-altering drug that causes cancer and people laugh about this.
What are we doing? Think about it!
Dr. Peter Butkins, LMT, LCAP
When you become educated with accurate information about your loved one's addiction problem, you will be able to choose between continued efforts to help him or her or using the guidance of a trained professional to coach you. I recommend the latter.
We, as therapists, have had good results when the family gives us permission to be the therapist and we all work as a team.
Dr. P. Butkins, LCAP, LMFT
I take those who have a desire to get and stay sober and clean, trust my path and take the action that I suggest.
My success rate is good because I am not money hungry and have great skills in helping family and the addict/alcoholic develop the skills, knowledge and abilities to get and stay sober.
I insist on less conversation, more action and much prayer.
I believe that each person will become successful if they do the above.
I want you to have a life worth celebrating
What is of utmost importance in addictions treatment is to find a therapist who is doing it because he or she has a solution that worked for themselves or a close relative/friend. Make sure the therapist is either in recovery and attends 12-step meetings for self or, if not in treatment for substances, goes to Al-Anon.
This is what I have come to believe after 50 years of studying and living addiction treatment and recovery.
Dr. Peter Butkins
P.S. For more, go to www.createspace.com for mu book, Tried and True Methods to Get Sober and Clean.
Addiction affects family members in ways the alcoholic can't see. He is to consumed with self. There is much work to do in reconstructing the family. Abstinence is but the beginning.
Love and Peace,