Gratitude is an action word. When we are helping others, we are not thinking of ourselves. The mind can only think one thought. When helping another, we are thinking nothing of ourselves and can simply feel good about the other person getting help.
'When you run out of things to be grateful for, start being grateful for the things for which you are not grateful.' - Lyn Kelly (Grow Institute, 2016).
Dr. Peter A. Butkins
When we ingest very small amounts of alcohol and even some drugs, our inhibitions leave and our judgment becomes very poor. Violence can be inevitable.
Hidden scars include emotional, mental, physical, financial and social pain. Survivors last but they don't always live.The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
Dr. Peter A. Butkins
When parents unintentionally protects their child from an alcoholic consequence, the behavior is rewarded and reoccurs. This results in a reinfrcing of the sick mindset that intoxication is justified and can be repeated. No consequences mean no change.
Dr. Peter A. Butkins
About 43% of U.S. adults, 76 million people, have had alcoholism in the family. www.alcoholism-statistics.com/family-statistics (2013).
Over the decades, it always comes back to alcoholism.
The recovering person heals to heal others.
July is a special month for me as I celebrate my sobriety anniversary.
Thank God for the twelve step programs.
There is a prescription for successful recovery that I teach at My Freedom Quest. My intensive outpatient program works when addicts/alcoholics follow 'my lead' consistently. After 50 years of helping people obtain successful recovery, I'm getting the hang of it. Call for more (407) 786-1913.
Dr. Peter A. Butkins
Addiction is the best kept secret, even to the addict.
My woman's program began one month ago. I am proud to announce that it has a great beginning, promising the tremendous success that the men's program has had over the years. I believe that by helping addicts and alcoholics to abstain from all mood-altering chemicals, find the support groups and perform the healing processes to help them reach a happy recovery, we can lead them to a recovery that replaces the darkness of addiction.
God and much work by the addict through God can create a healthy person who passes on this gift to others.
God bless and much success.
Well, intoxicated people can be alert yet show signs of inattentiveness. It depends on the drug and its effects. Addiction mimics about 200 other problems or conditions so it can be difficult to tell if someone is high unless you are trained in substance abuse. This is one of the ways in which it stays hidden in schools, business and politics. Even when it is obvious that someone is high on TV or in public, it is often dismissed by the talk show host and others as cute or random.
However, usually fatigued people go to sleep. If they do talk, it is to avoid direct answers to questions or blame others or justify their condition.
All in all, fatigued people do not repeat their episodes.
I have a friend who escaped from a violent man who threatened her life and the life of her daughter. This was in the USA. Believe that this problem is here and that there is a solution. Women's shelters are available as well as hotlines and many, many women and men who have survived and use their strength and hope to help others. Share your experience here. You may save a life.
When Charlie Sheen was hypomanic after serious drug episodes, we glamorized and the media sensationalized his downfall, focusing on the self-centered and childish manner in which he spoke and acted. The lessons passed us by. I did a You Tube video on his drug abuse spectacle, stating that I thought he could educated the world on addiction if he chose. He chose not to, similar to many celebrities who also make this choice. I don't understand why those who have a microphone don't use it to give accurate information about addiction. If IN recovery, they are the experts.
We need to look as Lamar Odom's path as typical of anyone who has this problem. The problem progresses until loss of control is obvious, use continues and, if no one sets boundaries, detaches or ends the relationship with a qualified message that, "when the abuse stops, we can be together again," the abuse progresses further and the problem gets worse until death or institutionalization. Consequences must be felt by the abuser, not shielded from awareness and thus rationalized by the abuser and his enablers.
I watched Anna Nicole Smith on Howard Stern's show when she was very intoxicated and the addiction was ignored. Elvis was given drugs by those who were entrusted to care for him. Numerous overdoses are covered up by caretakers who live off the celebrity. The stories go on and on...
If the media would focus on the educating the public about addiction and forget the money, we can learn a great deal about the real truth of addiction, how it treacherously enters the lives of our loved ones and how no one knows what to do or stay until they get outraged and explode or just leave. We must begin to "Just Say Something" while we can still be caring and logical and help those who are under the spell of addiction. They are on their way to a torturous death.
See my book on www.Amazon.com for more, Know Relief for the Family, Butkins (2012).
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Lamar Odom's recovery from a drug overdose and almost three-day coma has been described as "miraculous," but he is not out of the woods yet, E! News has learned exclusively.
As of Friday evening, the 35-year-old former NBA star remains on dialysis due to kidney failure. Also, while he appears to be "neurologically intact," doctors won't know the extent of the possible brain damage he had suffered until he is fully awake.
On Friday morning, he woke up and spoke for the first time since he was hospitalized on Tuesday following a drug overdose at a brothel in Nevada, telling Khloé Kardashian, "Hey baby," and giving her the thumbs up. E! News has learned that Odom, who is very groggy while coming off sedation, was also able to say "good morning." He is following and comprehending commands and giving the thumbs up and thumbs down when answering, which are good signs.
A hospital source had told E! News this week Odom appeared to have suffered an "ischemic stroke," which is caused by a blood clot preventing blood flow to the brain and is often associated with an overdose of cocaine and other drugs. The source had said at the time "virtually every drug imaginable" was found in Odom's system.
E! News has also learned Odom is "100 percent breathing on his own." He is wearing a non rebreather mask that is pumping oxygen. He had previously been hooked up to a ventilator. Many were in shock when they heard the news he no longer needed it. The next step is to wean him off the oxygen. However, if his body weakens, he may have to be placed back on the ventilator.
Odom also recently had a normal EKG test, which showed his heart is functioning normally. His heart rate and blood pressure are good.
Addiction is highly treatable. We usually 'break denial' and become motivated to seek help for alcohol and drug problems when there is a crisis. This is in part because we cannot see the problem the same as we can see other addictions such as people smoking cigarettes. The symptoms are not visible. However, this is not only because the problem is invisible. The problem is predominantly kept secret by power driven, greedy so-called specialists who hustle people into treatment centers, promise success and give ineffective treatment when the client and the family is terrified of death or incarceration, thus shielding them from the consequences needed to get sober and clean. They take the money from desperate victims only to discharge them when this money runs out. Most clients drink and/or use drugs immediately after they leave the treatment center anyway.
This is why the problem proliferates and perpetuates. There is too much profit stemming from ineffective treatment. Lack of integrity and character prohibit effective treatment. Let's take the hustle out of treatment.
Get better Lamar. Then get effective treatment from your free twelve-step program. It's the only way to get sober and clean - this is based on my 50 years of treating addicts and alcoholics and watching the successes and failures.
Thanks for your support. God knows we need your efforts.
Continued use of substances is a sign of loss of control and not recovery. The idea that an addict can be treated with substances or be prescribed continued use of a substance under the guise of treatment undermines the concept of effective and 'best fit recovery' and is thoughtless even when rationalized. Addicts love the idea because they can continue to get high.
MLB GM Brian Cashman declared that CC Sabathia had a 'life issue' and said that this is bigger than the game (ESPN, 10-04-15). It's encouraging to hear a sports leader valuing recovery. Maybe there is hope.
An example is when I was in graduate school taking counseling classes and was told that we have to take charge of our life. Then in recovery I was instructed to give up control of my life as I had no control.
The paradox unwinds when I use a Higher Power (HP) to give me control and then I can act from an illusion of control.
I have power through a Higher Power. I did not birth myself and I have little control over death. In between, I have free will. When I give this to an HP, I have control and live without much fear or negativity. I like this choice. Nothing else makes sense.
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The famous author, James Michner, made a decision in his 30's to be a great man. He got up at the crack of dawn and began writing. He became famous because he believed what he thought. You decide how to think about your life. I'm not sure we're in charge of our destiny but I'm certain we are who we think we are.
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Having peace, i.e., lack of fear, guilt, anger and hurt can lead to a tranquil state of mind that makes today's world wonderful. It is jumping forward or backward that distracts us.
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Sometimes it takes a crisis to give you that opportunity to grow. If you are paying attention, you can learn much from your crisis. If you are sleeping and fearful, you will repeat the crisis.
My Freedom Quest: Quality, Integrity, Affordability.