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October is domestic violence month. Here are some guidelines:

 

SAFETY ALERT:

If you are in danger call 911.
Or reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline 
at 1­-800-799-7233 or TTY 1­-800-787-3224.

If you are in immediate danger, please:

·         Call 911.

·         Contact your local hotline.

·         Contact a national hotline:

·         Call the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.

·         Call, text or chat Love Is Respect—the U.S. National Teen Dating Violence Helpline: 1-866-331-9474 or TTY 1-866-331-8453, text "loveis" to 77054 or live chat at http://www.loveisrespect.org.

·         Call the U.S. National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE), which automatically connects you to a local U.S. rape crisis program based on the area code of your phone number. Secure, online private chat is available at https://ohl.rainn.org/online/.

 

Remember: Corded phones are more private and less able to be intercepted than cordless phones or analog cell phones.

 

Be Aware: You may not be able to reach 911 using an Internet phone or Internet-based phone service, so you may need to be prepared to use another phone to call 911.

 

Contact your local domestic violence program, shelter, or rape crisis center to learn about free cell phone donation programs.

 

 

Tips for Using Technology

If you think your activities are being monitored, they probably are.

Abusive people are often controlling and want to know your every move. You don't need to be a computer programmer or have special skills to monitor someone's computer and Internet activities. Anyone can do it and there are many ways to monitor with programs like Spyware, keystroke loggers, and hacking tools.

It is not possible to delete or clear all the "footprints" of your computer or online activities.

If you are being monitored, it may be dangerous to change your computer behaviors such as suddenly deleting your entire Internet history if that is not your regular habit.

If you think you may be monitored on your home computer, be careful how you use your computer since an abuser might become suspicious.

You may want to keep using the monitored computer for innocuous activities, like looking up the weather. Use a safer computer to research an escape plan, to look for new jobs, apartments or bus tickets, or to ask for help.

Email and Instant/Text Messaging (IM) are not safe or confidential ways to talk to someone about the danger or abuse in your life.

If possible, please call a hotline instead. If you use email or IM, please use a safer computer and an account your abuser does not know about.

Computers can store a lot of private information.

This includes what you look at via the Internet, the emails and instant messages you send, Internet-based phone and IP-TTY calls you make, Web-based purchases and banking, and many other activities.

It might be safer to use a computer in a public library, at a community technology center (CTC), at a trusted friend's house, or at an Internet Cafe. Modern technology and social networks change frequently. Educate yourself by reading about the NRCDV's Tech Safety Resources. This special collection of selected articles, fact sheets, papers, reports and other materials are designed to assist advocates and survivors interested in understanding the safe use of technology.

 

 

 

https://nrcdv.org/dvam/DVAM-history 2017

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The addiction problem perpetuates itself because we don't publicize recovery. We support drinking and drug behavior.

Addiction must be brought out into the open and not just mentioned when there is an overdose. We must publicize the solution and the joys of sobriety.

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

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Addiction is chronic. Treatment is a daily program taught by survivors.

I work with many addicts and alcoholics who cut back or quit in their earlier years and then have a serious problem when they get out of control two, three, five or ten years later. They are not aware of the choinicity of addiction. It requires daily treatment taught by twelve step members who teach vigilance, consistency and model the joy of doing this.

Doc Pete

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When the enablers stop, the addict/alcoholic cannot continue abusing.

The enablers shield the person from the motivation to stop. This is not intentional. This supposedly relieves the stress from the family and the addict. However, it allows the person to continue to abuse because others are making it comfortable.

Dr. P. Butkins

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Normal drinkers/pot users get sense of ease and comfort. Addicts/alcoholics get tragedy.

One in about ten is an addict anywhere you go. We cannot drink or or use drugs safely. End of story.

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

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In recovery, we learn to laugh again.

Addiction recovery means that we accept ourselves as broken, work on mending by making up for the harm done to others and help other addicts/alcoholics to live again. We learn to see our addiction as a means to peace and usefulness - fulfillment.

Doc Pete

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Addiction treatment is possible. Tell your story!

Let others know what you and God and family and 12 step members have accomplished. Tell them how it works!!!

Bog on this site and share your experience so others can get hope.

Doc Pete

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Recovery from addiction entails much work in the mainstream of life where consequences can teach.

Addicts and alcoholics have to learn from pain and loss. There is no other way.

Doc Pete

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Addiction education is vital; addiction analysis is deadly.

Intellectualizing and rationalizing are old defense mechanisms that keep up in the dark, away from the pain of the consequences of our abusive actions when high or in active addiction. Good thinking must be learned from those who have 'been there.' Our old thinking must be replaced with health thoughts of the joy that comes when sober and clean.

Doc Pete

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Right living means making up for harm done to others and being helpful to them.

To stay sober and clean, we must be useful to God and others. Enhancement of our spiritual lives is necessary.

Doc Pete

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Addiction is easily treatable and a joy to discover.

When drug affected, it is impossible to imagine the joy of living without inebriation. A few days sober and clean helps us to see the better life that is available if we follow a few siimple suggestions.

Doc Pete

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Effective recovery from addiction involves learning and not teaching for quite a while.

Effective recovery from addiction involves learning and not teaching for quite a while. Knowing and teaching what you do't know can lead to painful failure.

Doc Pete

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Words can cut relationships but forgiveness can mend the wounds.

Our program teaches us how to mend the broken harms to others.

Doc Pete

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Spiritual growth, living honestly and with true intent to be useful to God and others is the goal of life.

Our very lives depend on constant thought of others (Alcoholics Anonymous, 1939.)

Doc Pete

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Recovery from addiction is attainable.

Recovery from addiction is very attainable . The experts have been there.  Find them at 12 step meetings.

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Focus on solution, not problems.

We can solve problems when sober and clean. When intoxicated, we focus on making problems.

Doc Pete

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Addiction treatment is relevant. Blasting President Trump is not.

Let's focus on solutions, not contempt.

Doc Pete

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Start each day with gratitude and empathy. It's a 'low risk' proposition.

Ask God for this each morning.

This will lead to continued stable recovery.

Doc Pete

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Let's focus on solutions to problems like addiction and not create chaos by focusing on manufactured problems or projected complaints.

Addiction is highly treatable by those who have treated themselves, not those who don't know how to treat t. It takes years to understand the solution and be able to reach addicts. Throwing money and drugs at addiction makes it much worse. Call me for the solution. Dr. Peter A. Butkins, LMT

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Opiate addiction is best treated by other opiate addicts, not more drugs.

Addiction is a disease. Abstinence is the answer.

Doc Pete

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