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Spiritual growth, living honestly and with true intent to be useful to God and others is the goal of life.

Our very lives depend on constant thought of others (Alcoholics Anonymous, 1939.)

Doc Pete

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Let's focus on solutions to problems like addiction and not create chaos by focusing on manufactured problems or projected complaints.

Addiction is highly treatable by those who have treated themselves, not those who don't know how to treat t. It takes years to understand the solution and be able to reach addicts. Throwing money and drugs at addiction makes it much worse. Call me for the solution. Dr. Peter A. Butkins, LMT

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Recovering people, law, honest treatment professionals and families can arrest the opiate problem.

It will take a synthesis of these people working together with integrity. Greed and power have no place in treatment.

 

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Good recovery requires commitment, not just involvement. #addiction

Commitment can be inspiring, a challenge that uses all of the will power and drive that is left to take recovery actions.Mostly, it takes surrender.

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

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Addiction Research is a Necessity!

Use results from valid and reliable research that is rigorous, has integrity. Bias must be eliminated. Integrity.

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

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Year One of Addiction Recovery Entails Dedication!!!

Getting a new girlfriend, being on mood-altering medication, being a workaholic or being otherwise distracted from your recovery dooms the addict.

Dr. Pete Butkins

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Effective Treatment for DrugAlcohol Addiction.

     Good treatment is best administered by thoes who have 'been there' and know the traps Even more, these people know how to solve the problems that arise the first year or two without medication or other forms of blocking feelings and reality.

     Addicts need to cope with feelings and not regress to anesthetizing them. Anger, fear, remorse and old hurts surface and must be resolved. Those who are sober and clean for years have done this and teach it.

     We need to address this. The addictions field is being monopolized by corporations with little knowledge of effective treatment. AND, it is killing us!!!

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

 

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A Lesson in Enabling!!! Johnny Manziel Escapes.

Treatment for addiction or domestic violence seldom works unless the perpetrator wants treatment and seeks treatment. The psychic change needed can only be attained by pain and loss that creates humility and motivates the person to ask for help.  Otherwise, treatment is usually done while the perpetrator is in denial. Try changing something that you don't want to change and don't think you have to change and, most importantly, resent the people who want to change you!

Ask any entertainer who has been in the news for addiction treatment or have refused it and continued to harm others. Sometimes tragic events do not motivate because the addict/alcoholic has warped his or her mind.

Look at the recent deaths from addiction. Most people have to die to get sober and clean while addiction is so treatable. The key is too not take away the pain and loss - use it to motivate the person with firm love. Pain is leverage!!!  

Dropped charges lead to dropped treatment.  Addiction is not a game.  Hopefully Trump will learn how to treat it. I hope he reads this blog.

Love and Peace,

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

 

 

 

Johnny Manziel’s assault case dropped if he undergoes anger management, rehab

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Studying the brain will not produce sobriety/clean time or recovery.

Analyzing is what the addict/alcoholic needs to do less.  Intellectualizing gives the illusion of control - again what the addict needs to do less.

Recovery means drug free actions that produce recovery; actions taken by thousands of successfully recovery people who have years and decades of continued abstinence and successful lives.  

Call me if you want to learn how. (407) 786-1913

I have over 50 years of study, addictions training and private practice that has bred much success.I have never accepted a grant. I am sober and clean for over 30 years.

I will never accept a grant. Recovery should not be driven by money.  Saving lives comes first!

Doc Pete

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Twelve-Step works.

Most of the problems occurring when God takes away our drug and alcohol cravings mollify when the twelve-step program is embraced.  This means that the addict/alcoholic goes to daily meetings for three months, obtains a sponsor/coach and does the steps with the sponsor; then he sponsors others.  This results in being neutral about intoxification, arresting negativity and being purposeful and useful to God and others. What's more, it's free!!!

 

Doc Pete

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Recovery 101               P. A. Butkins 09--07-16 Just because you know how to stay sober doesn't mean that you will!

 

Knowing the step, stages and signs of recovery and the symptoms, signals and idiosyncrasies of relapse does not mean that you will stay sober and clean.

Knowing how to sponsor, where the best meetings are, who the best sponsor is, memorizing the step, knowing the traditions, legacies and warranties does not mean you are in recovery.  Attending AA or NA meetings does not mean you are in recovery, an active member.

You can go to meetings often and get worse.

You have to perform the tasks that sober and clean and happy people perform in order to become sober, happy and clean.

Self-knowledge is a way to keep controlling your disease and your world.  God is in charge; He is in control. Stop intellectualizing your disease and act.

Redo the steps, sponsor and do service work at your meeting or club.

Do any service work but do it!

until

you can sponsor. (Put your name on the sponsorship list)

Self-knowledge availed us____________!!!

 

Stay Sober and Prosper,

Doc Pete, the imperfect therapist

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Success - Addiction Recovery 101 for the Class of 2016.

 

 

 

Success                                                                  Butkins 06-04-16

 

Not many people make it to recovery and, once in recovery, many go back to the insanity if addiction.  Now, I say this not to discourage you but rather to motivate you to be one of the successes.  Recovery is doable - highly treatable - and easier than you may think. Once in recovery, we have choices. Choose success; you are worth it.

 

The main action is to be wise enough, humble enough, teachable enough to get a mentor and do what he or she did. The actions are not as difficult as using drugs and alcohol and living that life of pain and loss.

 

Action begins with identifying and feeling the loss and pain that your addiction created.  Then comes the solution: dedication to a life of being useful.

 

We stop obsessing about ourselves and our problems and accept our lives and move up to a life of purpose.

 

This is an offer you can't refuse. It leads to inner peace and happiness. We dedicate ourselves to a life whereas we give back what we were given freely at our meetings.  We continue what works.

 

God bless and Happy Trails. 

 

Doc Pete, the imperfect therapist

 

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Family Treatment for Addiction. Substance Abuse.

Family Recovery              Butkins, 2016

I have marital couples enter treatment with the plan that they will work in therapy if the other person changes.  This does not work.  The opposite works.  When the family works toward reconstruction, the family has a chance to heal. This is especially true in a family where there s addiction. If the family waits until the addict is better and continues to harbor the old anger and hurts, the addict, identified patient, is stuck in a dysfunctional family. The spouse or parent... will resist his efforts to get sober and clean.  They will become angry when he goes to his meetings because he is not at home. In other words, they will not be cooperating with his treatment.

When the family enters treatment and participates in family night and family meetings and attends individual or group treatment, Al-anon, for themselves, we can be successful.

Attending treatment means that you are healthy enough to see that you have to also grow.

I ask you, as family members, to let me guide you.

 

Thank you, Doc Pete

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Step 6 - Helping a loved one get sober.

                                                     

After having learned to set boundaries, formed a team to hold each other accountable and intervening, commit to your plan.  

Many families try this one last time and quit after the person relapses.  Before quitting, see if the person is now serious.  If not, keep the plan/boundary - let go and see what happens.  If your loved one comes back to you and does what your addictions counselor asks (attends AA or NA, prays, associates only with recovering people and embraces his 12-step program and embraces recovery) you can feel confident that he means business. If not, detach with love!!!

Always leave the door open with the condition that, if he is sober and clean and being VIGILANT about recovery, he can gain your support.  However, he must be performing the above daily tasks.

Don't give up; go for a win/win.

Best of luck. Al-anon provides support, expert knowledge, skills and abilities as well as reinforcement and validation of your decision to have a health family.

 

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

P.S. Buy Know Relief for the Family, Butkins (2012) at www.createspace.com for the whole story.

P.P.S. This is the last of the abbreviated model for helping a loved one get and stay sober and clean.  My intent is to provide you with soeem helpful guidelines that will save you times and money and energy and strife.  I hope this helps.

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Step 5- Helping a loved one get sober.

 

After having learned to set boundaries, form a team to hold each other accountable. You have decided to intervene and save your loved one's life.  Choose stable and concerned family and/or friends and agree on a plan to intervene.  You can have a brief or half hour discussion about your pain and your decision to stop putting up with the drug and/or alcohol behavior. Have a prepared script and state your position. Use each other to remain consistent with your plan to get "off the Merry-go-Round."

Best of luck. Al-anon provides support, expert knowledge, skills and abilities as well as reinforcement and validation of your decision to have a health family.

 

Dr. Peter A. Butkins

P.S. Buy Know Relief for the Family, Butkins (2012) at www.createspace.com for the whole story.

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Dana White set boundaries with Jon Jones - Now he can get help. It's a disease not willpower! Jon Jones has incredible willpower in all other areas!!!

Dana White Done With Jon Jones, Says He Should Clean House

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Dana White Done With Jon Jones, Says He Should Clean House

After years of dealing with numerous out-of-the-Octagon issues swirling around Jon Jones, UFC president Dana White has run out of road when it comes to giving one of the greatest fighters of all time more room to course correct his life.

Jones has crashed his car after drinking, fled from the scene of a hit-and-run accident that he caused, he’s been popped for violating his probation, and tested positive for cocaine in an out-of-competition drug test.

Although it wasn’t any sort of violation, Jones refused to accept a last-minute replacement for UFC 151, with the promotion eventually deciding to cancel the event altogether. That certainly didn't sit well with UFC brass.

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Earlier this week is what really set White off, however, as Jones was flagged for a potential anti-doping violation, forcing him out of the UFC 200 main event opposite Daniel Cormier.

The latest was just a step too far for White.

“How many chances can you give this guy? How many breaks can you cut this kid?” White asked Friday on The Herd on FS1.

“Listen, I don't know where Lorenzo (Fertitta) is on this specific issue, but I still haven't talked to Jon Jones. There’s nothing for me and Jon Jones to talk about. I haven't and I'm not gonna. There is nothing for us to talk about.”

At the end of the day, White agreed to likening Jones’ situation to that of former boxing champion Mike Tyson, whose career in boxing crumbled when he surrounded himself primarily with friends who didn’t exactly help steer his career in the right direction.

“I'm not the biggest Jon Jones fan right now, but I truly believe that he did take a supplement, that had the stuff in it, and it wasn't intentional. I truly believe that,” White continued. “But at the same time, come on. You're 28 years old. You’re probably the greatest talent to ever step foot in this sport. Call USADA and tell them what supplements you're taking.

“You've already been through this history of just absolute madness. Why would you do this — forget doing this to us — why would you do this to yourself?

“You're a grown-up, and the guys that are around him are just as bad. The guys that are supposed to be looking out for him and watching his back. Give me a break. Give me a break. Jon should have cleaned house a long time ago. That's what Jon should have done.”

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Intervene now or let addiction take over.

When you become educated with accurate information about your loved one's addiction problem, you will be able to choose between continued efforts to help him or her or using the guidance of a trained professional to coach you.  I recommend the latter.

We, as therapists, have had good results when the family gives us permission to be the therapist and we all work as a team.

Dr. P. Butkins, LCAP, LMFT 

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