Talk to a sober person. Ask!
Talk to a sober person. Ask!
The first step is to put a drug czar in office who has a good education on addiction. Next, we need to get a think tank going to involve government, recovering people, healthcare professionals and lay men to synthesize a theory and treatment protocol.
Doc Pete the imperfect therapist
The wiser thing to do is to get sober and clean when you have the opportunity. When you can see that you will definitely lose the job, custody, the marriage... you have a chance to enter treatment.
You can wait until this happens.
The only way to get sober and clean is to end up in jail because that's what happened to me.
The only way to get sober and clean is to end up in ICU because that's what happened to me.
The only way to get sober and clean is to end up divorced because that's what happened to me.
The only way to get sober and is to get a dui because that's what happened to me.
The only way to get sober and clean is to be sick and tired of being sick and tired because that's what happened to me.
The truth of the matter is that your "bottom" is your bottom. I've seen everything from an imagined bottom gleaned from seeing others go down the rabbit hole to having to get 5 DUIs and still denying these consequences. If you do not get sober and clean after a hard bottom, chances are that you have an enabler lurking in the background who alleviates the pain and loss so that you can't get sober and clean. This is probably unintentional but still very harmful.
When consequences, problems, occur because of drinking and/or drug abuse, pay attention and see this as a very serious problem. If you see the problems, chances are they are much worse than you think. You have been justifying them and are well defended from their impact. By the time you feel them, you have far exceeded their impact on your life. They are, therefore, much more serious than you can imagine. If you have physical problems such as ulcers, acid reflux, liver trouble, memory loss, or any other concern, you are in late chronic stages of addiction. Get out while and if you can but do it now. It may be just in time.
Love and Peace,
Medication offers a 'quick fix' which all addicts want. However, the process of staying sober and clean after getting sober and clean demands work over two to five years. Initial minimal substance abuse treatment, 4-5 hours per week, when combined with three months of AA and/or Na participation and ongoing participation, leads to ongoing recovery and character building, spiritual development, good relations and success in job and family.
Family unity can get the addict/alcoholic to treatment and, if family continues treatment, can lead to success. The family is the best motivator to influence the person to enter this rigorous treatment.
Do not be seduced by quick fixes that shelter the addict/alcoholic from the consequences. Family MUST learn to set boundaries and not shield the addict from the pain necessary to enter treatment. Protecting the addict from consequences can place a band aid on the problem and takes the fear from the family but does not work. You end up with a dependent and eventually helpless and hopeless adult child who subsequently tolerates life instead of growing. Do not shield the son or spouse because you are afraid of setting boundaries and upsetting the unstable family status quo. Have the courage to learn and take the effective actions.
For more, see my book, Know Relief for the Family, www.createspace.com